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Beauty smote his heart, he looked up from the forsaken land & hope returned to him

Visiting the Island

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egret-in-tree-small.JPGLast weekend we went to a wedding in Southport, NC just south of Wilmington. When we told a friend we were headed down he suggested we stay at his beach house on a private island. We accepted.

evidence-of-cribbage-small.JPG It was a fun and interesting experience. The fun part was being on the beach, flying kites, playing cribbage, driving a golf cart and enjoying the peace and the views. The interesting part was feeling so very far out of our socio-economic realm.

To get to the island you have to take a passenger ferry. When we arrived late Thursday night I could tell by the corked high-heels, make-up and lacrosse sticks accompanying various teenage girls that this wasn’t our normal scene. This was reinforced when we arrived on the island as we were whisked away to our house by polite young men towing us behind their small, electric truck in an open tram.

golf-cart-small.JPGOf course we had our own golf cart to whisk us to the beach, which we quickly made use of. We dodged cartfuls of drinking, polo clad teenagers who hooted at us as we made our way to the moonlit beach. It might have been a romantic walk except that I was promptly pinched by a blue crab. My hooting, sprinting and swearing of revenge upon all crab-kind reduced Charity to compassionate laughter and me to walking gingerly for the remainder of the stroll.

a-look-small.JPG The rest of the weekend we enjoyed the beach, the wedding, each other and some tasty seafood (crab legs included). I think what has been incongruous to me is that we were in a house that we would never be able to afford unless we changed the focus of our energies and thoughts. I enjoyed enjoying it. Thinking about the incongruous feelings keeps me wondering about money and if it’s ok to want large amounts and if to give what it takes to pursue large amounts.

I’ve been wondering a lot lately about finances and wealth, how to make money and what to want. There seems to be a mindset of doing one’s job and budgeting from there and that there is a mindset of seeking out money and financial buying power. Lately I’ve been thinking more and more in the second of the two mindsets and I’m not sure what I think about myself and the transition. I wonder about what it says about me and if it’s changing me.

When I transitioned from a “spend as little as possible” budget to a more thoughtful and forward thinking budget I was uncomfortable as well. I used to think that talking about money was boring, droll and was a lack of thinking about what one should: art, God, relationships. Now as Charity and I discuss how much to put towards loans, savings or eating out I’ve accepted it as a normal part of life. I’m beginning to understand that how one spends is a fundamental outworking of what one values. Talking about how we spend is talking about what we value.

The pursuing money mindset brings a different swirl of questions: should one try to increase one’s income? How can you do it? What is being sacrificed to pursue it? What is being gained?

Written by furthermusings

August 1, 2006 at 3:21 am

Posted in Pictures, Reflections

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  1. alrighty Mr.! When I asked if you put the picture of us up on the blog that’s not the photo I meant! ;-P


    August 2, 2006 at 1:56 am

  2. Great pic! I didn’t even know those small photos lead to large ones. Love the look, CP.


    August 2, 2006 at 6:39 pm

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